Everyone sees the 'e-cards' that are shared across social media, right? You know, the ones with the Victorian-age looking people and the sarcastic comments written across them? Well, while scrolling through my Facebook this week, someone had shared the e-card that had something to this effect: "Yeah, honey, I know it's hard cooking, cleaning, and doing laundry, but I also have this side-gig called a job." The person who had shared it took offense to it, as she is a stay-at-home mom (and rightfully so, it wasn't very polite), but her response was something to the effect of "I've done both. When you are at work you aren't disciplining, modeling, and shaping young minds. I KNOW which one is easier" and someone within a thread on this topic replies that she "totally agrees, it's hard to make sacrifices to be a SAHM, but that [she] understands that her kids are worth it" and add in the statement "I would like to go back to school, but my kids are too important."
First, this is NOT a slam at SAHMs. I will NOT argue who has it "harder." SAHMs have a huge job and responsibility, but I take REAL offense that because I am a working mom who also goes to school that I must not care about my kids enough or think that they are not important or that I place my kids on the back-burner in selfish ambition.
Why must everyone assume that someone can't be a good mom, a good student, and a good worker? Why must one thing HAVE to suffer? I really don't see it that way. I can be dedicated to my family, my job, and my schoolwork and give it all my best--NOTHING has to go to crap! So, why must people feel that they need to make me feel that it does? I just don't get it. Why can't we support each other? There are plenty of children who DO have crappy home lives, so why do we feel that we need to put another mom down in order to make ourselves feel better? Seriously?
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